When I got pregnant,my boyfriend courageously came to my mum to inform her about it. Unfortunately, I did not have the courage to tell my mum but a friend.My friend told me she will give abortion pills which I agreed to.Instead of giving me the pills, she rather told my boyfriend to advise me not to abort it.I was schooling by then so, I psyched myself to accept my plight of teenage pregnancy in place of education.My boyfriend and I were often meeting until he asked for permission to travel in order inform his parents about the pregnancy.Till now, I have not seen him so he probably is still informing his parents.
When he left, the fetus really worried me. He was always kicking and hitting me in the womb. I really suffered severe pains. As a result of the pains, one day I went to the hospital and the nurse told me my fetus was six months old. That was so shocking to me because I thought I was only two months pregnant.I got pissed at the nurse but she calmed me down and said it was a machine that was used.The machine revealed the date of pregnancy and the number of months. At least, I could trust a machine! hmm! My tummy was very flat and I was never checking the date for my menses. And I had sex only once.My mum believed it because her stomach was very flat when she was pregnant.I went to the hospital once for antenatal and never went again. I never swallowed any of the medicines that were given me at the hospital. Whenever my mum gave me the drugs from the hospital, I sneaked out to nicodemously throw them away. Never did I swallow even one of it. I preferred herbal medicines from one female herbalist and spiritualist.
My labour contractions were so painful. Even though the water broke, I did not feel the baby kicking.The pains from the contractions were severely painful. So to ease my pains I watched a movie and paid a visit to my auntie.On my way to the my auntie’s house I was talking aloud to the cocoa trees. I guess I was getting crazy at that point.
When I was at my auntie’s house, the pain became extremely severe and my auntie and mum helped deliver the baby. At 10 pm the baby was not out. I was made to deliver at under a tent and not in a room.My midwives(mum and auntie) severely beat me to push the baby out to prevent the amniotic fluid from entering his nose. I got up and vigorously exercised but the baby was not coming.some minute later,I felt a shift in my womb. At this point I was certain that the baby coming out soon.Coincidentally,the rains started and my baby came out. Ignorantly, I picked up my baby without even pushing the placenta out. So my mum shouted at me to put the baby out and push the placenta. At that point, the rain had stopped. I could not push at that time so I was given some herbal medicine . Immediately, the placenta came out.
Ahhh!!! I could now take a deep breathe because the main work was over . My baby looked very beautiful and hairy and I was so much filled with joy.It was after delivery that felt the pains from the beatings I received during labour. I think labour is not a child’s play. It is very painful. It is rather unfortunate that the father of my baby has never returned to see the baby but he knows very well he has a daughter. He not taking care of the baby any way.
Teenagers, be patient.If you are student, be focused! After a man/boy has had premarital sex with you, he will not respect you as he used to. After having sex with several men, none of them accept any pregnancy because they tend to think they are not responsible due to the fact that they did it only once. Teenager, you should not even try to abort any fetus when you get pregnant. If you are not ready to give birth, don’t have sex. There is no need to rush. Girls,If he has not married you, do not allow him to have sex with you.I am talking out of experience. After having sex with you, they do not even remember the promise ring let alone to respect you.
21-year old mum